5 Keys to Self Care in this Moment of Transition
A year ago you were likely managing your family’s routines from home. It was stressful and new, but there was some simplicity in it. Now most of us are back to school and to activities, and the parenting hustle is real.
Having had a year of something else, the same routines we used to manage suddenly feel like a lot. Your child’s emotions are likely running high in this transition period. And so are yours.
When you feel yourself slipping into anxiety, anger, or frustration, take a few minutes to bring your better self (and/or your better child) back with the following strategies:
Savor your shower/bath routine.
Give yourself 10 extra minutes to enjoy your bath or shower rather than rushing through it. Use your senses to fully experience the smell of your shampoo, the sensation of the water on your skin, the patterns of droplets on the wall, and the sound of yourself belting out a showtune or two or just sighing as your body relaxes. Put on lotion or a favorite clothing item afterward for a little extra joy.
Bring back the good parts of your commute.
If you’re back to commuting, use this time as a chance to reset. If you’re not, go for a short walk or drive anyway! Need a distraction? Download an audio book or podcast to play on the way. Need a daily mood boost? Try choosing an anthem for the week and play or sing it before you get out of your car or walk into your (home) office. Choose something that makes you feel like your best self.
Reset after every rough patch.
When the morning routine crumbles into chaos, take a deep breath and start over. If you yelled at the kids to get going, take a deep breath and declare that it’s about to get better. Then have a dance party on the drive to school. Walk backwards to the bus stop. Only have a minute? Gather them for a hug or a laugh and a quick apology. Envision the emotion you’d like to have, and take immediate action to get there.
Practice acceptance.
If the work doesn’t get done in the time allotted, don’t burn the midnight oil. Identify some things you could let go and plan for tomorrow’s success. This is especially important right now, when changes in routine should be making you less efficient than usual. Yes, I said should. Your feelings alert you to what you are experiencing and help you to make sense of it. The process of adjustment you are going through uses some of your mental and emotional resources, whether or not you plan to let it. Acknowledge that and let yourself progress more slowly in other areas. You’ll come out healthier in the end.
Find your personal reset button.
Create a mini routine that gets you back in touch with your core self. Set a timer so you don’t have to watch the clock, and
Do a series of 2-3 favorite yoga poses.
Meditate or listen to a guided imagery exercise.
Read a favorite poem.
Draw
Play or sing a favorite song.
Stretch or use progressive muscle relaxation.
Wash your face or brush your hair.
Massage your feet.
Eat a piece of fruit. Savor every bite.
Play with your pet.
Hug someone you love.
Listen to a favorite comedy bit.
Read an article about something you enjoy.
Have a cup of tea (skip the caffeine if you’re feeling anxious or not sleeping well).
Watch the clouds float by.
This is an important skill for your family, too!
Consider making a chart of each person’s favorite resets, and posting it in the kitchen. Place a magnet or clip on the activity you’re doing when you go to reset, or use a game spinner to choose your activity.
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